The short story Hills Like White Elephants by Ernest Hemingway shows how difficult it can be to decide to stay in a relationship that isn’t working out or a relationship that doesn’t go the way people plan it to go. In the story there is a man who is relocating and a woman who is in a relationship with the man and they’re arguing about whether she should go with him. By the way the conversation goes, the woman decides to stay in the relationship with the man. I relate to this struggle because there was a time where I was in with a relationship with a boy and he got into a lot of trouble and it was a tough decision to whether I should stay with him or not.
Does she stay in her relationship with the man? I think she does stay in the relationship with the man. I say she does stay in the relationship due to the way they spoke to each other. The conversation did not come off to me as an aggressive argument, it did not seem like an argument at all. Yes, there were bits where the lady did get a little snippy, but not necessarily argumentative. I don’t blame her though if my boyfriend was going somewhere far and he wanted me to just uproot my life and go with him I’d be a little snippy too. She really wanted to make him happy though, so when he was trying to persuade her to come with him she was really taking into consideration how happy they would be again and how she only wants to make him happy. I’d want the same for my boyfriend I’d want what’s best for both of us and what makes our relationship better. She also reminisces about when they used to be happy and there wasn’t any distance between them. When they she would mention the white elephants and he liked it and didn’t have such a vague response to that statement. She just wanted things to be to be the way they were. So, yes I do think she stayed in the relationship with the man and I also think she did decide to relocate with the man. When have you made a important choice to stay in a relationship or leave a relationship? A time I have made an important choice to leave a relationship is when I decided to leave my first serious boyfriend. I met my boyfriend through a mutual friend we instantly hit it off, we liked the same things and had similar senses in humor. What I didn’t know about my boyfriend at the time was that he was into drugs and I’m not just talking about marijuana. He was into hardcore drugs like cocaine and meth. I didn’t know anything about his drug issues until 3 months into our relationship and I was instantly brought to a difficult place in my mind. On one hand I liked him, he treated me better than any other boy had treated me and he didn’t act any different when he was high (I thought this was peculiar.) But I was strictly against hardcore drugs, I knew their effects and what they did to your Briana and body. I distinctly remember the situation in which he told me, we were hiking at one of my favorite hiking spots and he said “Gabby, there’s something I haven’t been completely honest with you about and I feel now’s the right time to tell you.” Of course this brought me to a state of panic, as it would with anyone. “What could you possibly have been so scared to tell me that you hid it from me for 3 months?” I asked. “Well, I know your stance on this topic and I didn’t want you to think differently of me.” He said. I immediately knew he was going to say something that involved hardcore drugs. “Gabby, I do meth and cocaine and if this changes your opinion of me I understand but I hate sneaking around you to hide it.” I was so shocked I didn’t even suspect he was doing anything like that, he never acted like he was on anything. As much as I liked him and even though he was my first serious relationship I had to get out of it. I knew he wouldn’t stop even if it was for me, I knew I couldn’t bring someone like that to meet my parents, and I couldn’t watch someone I care about slowly but surely kill themselves. So, as though as the decision was 2 weeks after he told me about the drugs I broke up with him and I haven’t spoken with him since.
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2/18/2018 05:09:48 pm
Gabriella Having my five daughters and knowing the struggles they went through with some of their boy friends. I believe you made a very wise choice for your happiness and future.
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Rosita Carbajal
2/21/2018 03:11:10 pm
I think you made a great choice by leaving the situation. Sometimes its not worth the effort to try to change someone. There are so many fish in the sea so why waste time with one bad fish. :)
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